PLAYING WITH ? IM JUST CURIOUS AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG?

Well, different people have different sensitivity in their s. You may not be one of the people that enjoys having your played with. Also, you may not be doing it right, or you may be too young (didn't include an age). Just let things happen as they happen. If/when you are with someone in a ual way, make sure that they know what you do and don't like. Don't let them do things that you don't enjoy unless there is some sort of trade off.